Offer of Condolence - Just Go With It

"As time goes on I find myself more and more remembering the good times we had together

and letting go of the irrational anger I felt at him for leaving me so soon.

I want to warn you -- there will be times,

months and even years later,

when you too will all of a sudden be flooded with sadness -- just go with it and have a really good cry." Here's the letter.


Dear Jenny:

I was so very sorry to hear about your loss. Since we haven't been in touch for the last several years, I'm not sure if you know that Peter (the man I had live with for 17 years) died very suddenly at the age of 58. He had a massive heart attack and I actually found him in our bedroom after coming home for work.

I just wanted to let you know that I while our circumstances are different, I actually do know how you are feeling at this time. I also wanted to tell you that, even though I didn't know him, if he was the person you had picked to spend the rest of your life with, then he had to have been a really good guy. A few things I wish I had known after Peter died (almost 3 years ago) was that time really does have a way of healing things.

Having said that, if you ever need to talk to someone who kind of understands what you're going through, know that you can call me anytime -- day or night and I will just listen if that's what you need. You are in my prayers & thoughts.

With Deeepest Sympathies,

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